Try finding your local community at http: I've seen the author of this site floating around in the comments here once or twice, perhaps she'll chime in. Evidently, though, if you're looking for BDSM to be part of actual sex, you're not going to get it through hiring a professional. Best and fastest first read:
FetLife is a website where you can create a profile and find other people in your area. If you're new to a certain activity, research the hell out of it before trying it, and discuss the research with your potential play partner. Note that some dungeons have professional subs, too, but that these are more rare.
A Sadist may harm, belittle or humiliate a Masochist who ultimately finds pleasure in being in such situations. Note that some dungeons have professional subs, too, but that these are more rare. This should be a slow process for a newbie, because safety comes first! Submissive or slave referral to self in third person is acceptable and may be considered a formality.
I can not recommend this enough as a safe public way to network and make friends! However, it's expensive. In order to do that, you could:. If they have an online discussion group, join it. This is actually a complicated question… maybe even more complicated than you realize.